Shyness and dating
When two shy people are having a conversation then the strain is on both of the individuals to develop it and work to keep it going.
In a way, when you are around other shy people it's much easier to improve your social skills, as you're more forced to put work into it, and with work comes improvement.
Especially if he’s kind enough to ask you a few questions as well. The only way to succeed in something this visceral is to turn off your brain and get out of your own way.
Granted, I have a little diarrhea of the mouth and could probably use a few kicks under the table to shut me up at times.
My problem is that I freeze up when I talk to guys. Try bringing that same persona and energy to a date.
Pay sites also tend to collect more information about you and use more advanced matchmaking algorithms.
According to Google, Match and e Harmony are the leading pay sites.
I had a little self confidence until a few years ago, and didn’t “date” anyone until I was 23. As long as you’re not putting down another’s opinion, or pining for a former lover, you should be pretty safe. And let’s face it: occasionally you’ll stick your foot in your mouth and say something stupid. You just need the confidence to play it off afterwards. I can literally write a book on all the foolish things I’ve said or done on dates, and I’m sure my ex’s can write another two volumes about my idiocy. My advice to you, Jessica, is to create a subtle shift in your thinking.
I feel like I am now going through what most people go through in High School or College, but at a later time. As you can tell from your own experience, the worst thing you can do is worry about what you’re going to say. All you can do is recognize your mistakes and attempt not to repeat them. “No…actually I don’t.” I thought about it some more. Worrying has never helped anybody become a better date. Instead of thinking that you’re the nervous college graduate, pretend that you’re the boss – confident, secure, not determined to impress. The best advice I can give about how to “be” on a date is this: Think about the people in the world with whom you’re most comfortable.